This is actually inspired by the post that Aman, the blogger of http://technomemorabilia.blogspot.com/ wrote on my blog regarding my “My love/hate relationship with men” post :
” I have noticed that women seem to fall for the “dangerous” or the “wrong” guys … and the good guys are left in the lurch thinking that maybe they need to be wrong and dangerous”
And to state the fact, he is completely right. Women do tend to fall for bad boys. Doesn’t matter if it’s the shy woman, the bold woman, the dependent woman or the independent woman, she will fall for a bad boy at least once in her lifetime.
The question is why?
The general image is that bad boys usually tend to give out the vibe of control and authority. A bad boy will be proud of himself, not afraid to take risks, and independent. According to various psychologists and relationship experts such as Judi James state that women are biologically “programmed” to find men who give out powerful body movements and signals. Believe it or not, women also seem to have a biological need to seek males with powerful personalities.
So men around the world stand by and see women go ga-ga over men like Wentworth Miller, Johnny Depp, John Abraham, , Collin Farell/Farrel (I never know how to spell his name) and Daniel Craig. Men wonder if women really like tattooed torsos, if women really like shrubby beards, if women really like men who’ve had “some” experience with other women, and if women seriously want their men to go drive an audi, while shooting some dude in the car behind him and still be able to make some serious good love-making afterwards.
Not really.
What men tend to forget is that there is a big difference between fantasy bad boy and reality bad boy.
A fantasy bad boy is the man with the mysterious eyes, a proud personality, attitude, knows how to hustle and is street wise so no one dares to screw him over.
A reality bad boy is a man involved in serious crime, guns, drugs, women, police and has a unhealthy habit to be unpredictable.
A fantasy bad boy may have hustled in his younger days, may have spent a day or two behind bars for something stupid like getting into a small fight, he may very well have had numerous girlfriends.
A reality bad boy may have spent months and years behind bars for crime like murder, he may get into serious fights, has had countless of women around him, even when he is supposedly dating, and is involved in the drug/weapon business.
If you actually take a break and observe the bad boys that women fall for, you’ll see that in the bottom line, these bad boys have strong, powerful personalities with the image that they’ll protect their woman at any cost.
Let me elaborate using my three fav. bad boys.
Bad Boy nr. 1: John Abraham
Johnny boy here has enchanted many girls and women around the world due to his looks and bad-ass attitude in movies. In real life, he’s settled down with long term girlfriend, Bipasha Basu.
Bad Boy nr.2: Shawn “Jay-z” Carter.
Maybe a surprise to some. Jay Z isn’t you’re total dream hottie but his personality and style is Hot with a capital H. Jigga man has attitude and as released songs like “Girls, Girls, Girls” and “Big Pimpin”. In real life, he’s has had a troubled childhood with a single mom and the streets being his home. Today, he’s married his long term girlfriend, Beyonce Knowels, admits he wants to start a family, and Jay and Beyonce are the richest couple in Hollywood today according to Forbes Magazine. Sweet eh?
Bad Boy nr.3: Wentworth Miller
You know it was coming. You know him, I know him, you’re boyfriend knows him and you’re girlfriend definitely knows him. He plays a smart fugitive on the run with a tattooed torso. In real life he has a BA in English Literature from Princeton University, doesn’t like to party and likes playing scrabble. 
See the pattern?
Not many women fall for men into real crime. Not many women are willing to live with a man while he sleeps here and there climbing as many chimneys as possible, if you know what I mean. Not many women are willing to hear gunshots outside their house. Not many women are willing to be surrounded by guns and drugs.
Today, women seem to fall for the image of bad boys. But in truth, as said before, women seek strong, protective males. And a bad boy seems to illuminate that image.
So, I hope men know now. Now, if you don’t mind…I have to search the internet for a new Jay-Z poster since my mom “accidentally” ripped my last one in half while “carefully” taking it off from my wall.
All I can say is that my mom has a complicated relationship with Jay-Z. At least she said, “Ok, me and your father will strongly consider buying you tickets to a Jay-Z concert when he starts his new world tour”.
Being a kid of Desi parents, the consideration alone is a big thing 
Until next time,
Mamashaal (( desi diva ))
